For a big part of my life I was constantly on a closure quest. It is a word I used so often – ‘I need closure to move on’.
What exactly is closure and why is it so important?
My personal ‘belief’ is that closure is knowing the truth and bringing an end to something that we are hanging on to. It gives us the unlimited power to do strange things. The refusal to face the reality and wanting to seek the ‘real truth’ instead. The right to act weird, to cling onto something or someone. The quest to find the happiness in our unhappiness.
Our life gets stuck when there is no closure, we simply cannot move on. Period.
I was a closure addict. I needed to know what happened then I will find peace. Truth is I was refusing to accept what had happened. I was finding excuses to live in the past. I did not want to let go of the happy times and the suffering I had gone through. I wasn’t ready to face the truth that I was no longer a part of something that I once had. I wasn’t looking for closure, I was looking to victimize myself. I needed to validate all the things
I was done with the closure quest. I was in denial.
The practice of yoga has brought my quest inward and made me reflect on my actions and thought process. Not everything has an answer and sometimes we may not know why things happen they way they do.
Instead of looking outside for answers, I focus on myself.
I have learned to forgive and find peace with myself. I learned that there are millions of thoughts within me and I do not need to listen to all of them, especially those that are eating me up. I learned to respect and treat myself better. I realize I need to learn self-love. The old saying goes – you need to love yourself before others can love you or even before you can love others. Most importantly I learned to listen to my body. For me this is the real quest.
- Are you on a quest to resolving something?
- Do you believe you need closure to move on?
- How have your beliefs shaped your quest for closure?
Our life is a long and arduous quest after Truth and the soul requires inward restfulness to attain its full height ~ Mahatma Gandhi